Does your kitchen look like this?
. . . because this is my kitchen!!!
I can make all these wonderful post about what I do in my perfect little kitchen but it wouldn't be real. This is what my kitchen looks like most of the time.
I am always weak and I always need help in the kitchen.
Underneath the little picture of St. Gianna (above) says, "One cannot love without suffering or suffer without loving." -St. Gianna.
It's so true! Suffering can also include the dishes and the dreaded laundry. In fact, those are my sufferings. I dream of being a missionary and going back to the days of doing pro-life work. But for now, this is my suffering and boy does it stink.
It's the silent suffering that only God knows about. It's this vocation of motherhood that I have chosen, and it is really hard.
I have realized that it's OK to ask for help when I am weak.
My mom was just talking to me about being a supermom. She said the idea that we have to be a supermom is worldly and ridiculous. We are not supermoms, and neither should we strive to be one. We are weak and need help from those around us. Being a wife and mother is hard and it's absolutely necessary to ask for help.
What do I need when I am weak?
I need strength to make better choices regarding what I eat and feed my family.
I need help in the kitchen to make better foods for my family.
How do I get this help?
I have to ask for it. I can't expect my husband (or children) to read my mind.
I have to be specific. If I need the dishes done, I can't assume my husband knows that, I have to say it!
I need courage to say no to foods that make me tired and grumpy. For me this is sugar and gluten.
I need humility to realize that I have to take care of my health. I have different food needs and I cannot ignore or pretend that things are different.
How do I get all these things that I need?
I cannot afford not to pray. I have to make those dishes and laundry a prayer and a sacrifice. It's what gives me the strength to get through.
"With God all things are possible." - Matthew 19:26